Wednesday, August 31, 2016

In Defense of the Quickie

I'm baaaack bitches! And I am feeling inspired to write about one of my favorite sexual acts: the quickie. Consider this a quickie post on quickies.

Obviously, a quickie means something different to everyone. For me, a quickie is a fast sexual interlude, often not including much foreplay but it can include some kissing or hand stuff or etc. Often the goal is orgasm(s) for one or both partners in a quick amount of time, because hey we've all got shit to do. I would state that for me, a quickie must be shorter than 5 minutes. But I think that can definitely vary from person to person. If you're used to having sex for an hour at a time, a quickie might look more like half an hour or 15 minutes, for example.

I have written about this before, but I think there is a misnomer in heterosexual society that women hate quickies because it's hard for us to get off in a short amount of time, with only penis in vagina penetration involved. First of all, not all women need a bunch of romancing and foreplay in order to reach an orgasm; many do, and that's cool! But hashtag not all women, folks. I myself can come within 30 seconds of the first clit touch, especially if I'm in the mood or with someone I'm really excited to be having sex with. Second, a quickie doesn't have to consist of penis in vagina action, and both partners don't have to get off! In fact no one has to get off, and that's still fine. Let's break the heterosexual ideas on quickies and queer this up a little bit, friends. Third, not all women or people even want to have an orgasm during a sexual encounter, or want to feel pressured into it. Sometimes a swift reminder that you are wanted (in that way) is enough to fill someone with endorphins and good feels.

Sometimes, when you're first with a person, you just want to spend all day/ night/ weekend fucking them. Which happens to me too, even though I tend to cum quickly and can't necessarily keep up the same level of interest after that. But some of my favorite long-term relationships started with some fast sex, and continue to be based in quickies. Brief moments where we see one each other naked, suddenly decide we need to bang, and then move on with our days. Which is simply lovely moment to share with people! Repeatedly. Throughout your lives together.

Don't hassle yourself too much if you cum quickly and prefer shorter sexual interludes. Sex is one of the best things ever, but trust me: as someone who is totally obsessed with sex, I can attest that there is more to life and love than sex alone.

Tuesday, May 3, 2016

Writer's Block: a Lament

I've never been the most prolific writer, and even during my most creative periods I still mostly just write narcissistic verbal diarrhea (as evidenced by this blog!). Not that there's anything wrong with that, but I don't feel like I will ever achieve my big goals as a writer. I'd love to write the next Great American Novel because wouldn't we all? But I fear the best I may be able to do is a set of fairly uninteresting essays about being depressed and sexy that I could call "memoirs." And I'm never even going to get there unless I can establish a process for daily or, at least, frequent writing.

Recently I have been attempting to rectify my creativity drought by seeking books about writing rather than actually doing any writing, like you do. Everyone always recommends this book called The Artist's Way to me, and I apologize in advance if this book totally changed your life but I have to say it's crap. I mean, if it worked for you that's wonderful. It doesn't work for me because the spiritual nonsense in it is distracting and especially because she is so adamant that one must do their stream-of-consciousness writing first thing in the morning. Because the same creative process that works for one person should work for everyone, right? Especially rebellious spirits who hate mornings?

I am so sick of morning people. Or really just the concept, not always the people themselves (but it depends, more on that in a moment). I have had to rearrange my entire life around the fact that people believe that morning is a superior time of day, and that everyone should be able to adjust their schedules to be most productive during that time of day. I can only guess that this has it's roots in puritanism and agriculture. My mother (who was raised on a farm) was certainly an adherent to the concept that lack of ability to get out of bed in the morning = laziness. I love my mom and I'm fine with her schedule (she wakes up at 4am), but let's just say I have a gigantic chip on my shoulder about this bullshit.

Out of all the reasons I went into sex work, including that old love of sex that I have, my lack of ability to wake up and have a functional brain before noon was up at the top. You see, it is totally possible (though extremely difficult) for me to get up in the morning. This morning I woke up at 10am, but didn't get out of bed until 11. When I used to do vanilla work I woke up at 7 or sometimes even 6 to get to work on time, but would be mostly useless until noon. Or at least I felt useless. My brain is foggy in the morning, my bones tired. The fact that I suffer from insomnia doesn't help, but even if I go to bed at a normal hour and actually do fall asleep I still struggle to be active until well into the afternoon. I have never been able to go to the gym first thing in the morning, and everything I write is garbage. Every mistake I have ever made at work has occurred before noon.

I can't remember what Julia Cameron- the author of The Artist's Way- says about writing first thing in the morning. It has something to do with your mind being more connected to your subconscious then, I believe. Or more open to letting creativity in. I mean, I guess that makes sense... but if your mind is a raisin first thing in the morning, how useful is it that it's connected to the subconscious then? It's not really useful for me. I often feel as though my brain is both more functional and more connected to creativity after midnight. I have heard so many artists say that's true for them, and they're usually the sort of tortured artist I can get down with. It would seem that my art is often about honesty over craft, and quality over quantity. Not that this blog post is any indication of either. And I'm even writing this at 4:30 in the afternoon!

As I struggle to tap back in to my creative flow, I know one thing for certain: every artist is different. Actually, I know 2 things for certain: every artist is different, and a book that states that there is only one way to find your creativity is not useful in my own process. In fact, books overall are not useful. Actually writing, like I am right now, is what is best. Even when it's complete and utter self-reflective poop. So help me out and give me some prompts if you like. And know that some day I will find myself again and will have new posts of equal or lesser quality to this one back up here weekly to daily.

Monday, March 21, 2016

Just Reminding Everyone that I Sell Porn, Too, Plus Juicy Porny Photos

Hey you pervy Kitten fans- I know I don't write on this blog much these days, but I hope to get back into it more soon :) I've been busy working on my side projects, and one such project I'd like to share with you is my amateur porn efforts.

When I started writing this blog I was still working at a cable porn company in Boulder, watching porn all day and wishing that could be my career. Since I left there what... almost 4 years ago now, if you can even believe it, the Internet porn industry has changed so much and it has become a lot easier to just throw some clips up and make some $$$ off them. So while I am not expert when it comes to shooting and editing and websites and etc etc, I am an expert at bullshitting my way through things and can now officially add "amateur porn star" to my resume that will never actually get me any "real" job ever.

It took me like 2 whole months to figure out how to edit the scene that the photos below are from- that's how amateur and occupied with other things I am. But I finally figured it out and now my first ever B/G POV blowjob scene is available! You can find it and other clips at ManyVids (this is where most of my clips live right now, but they take a larger cut just FYI) and AmateurPorn (only 2 clips here thus far but I get more money from them just FYI).

VIP Secretary Looks
It's no secret that I love blowjobs, and if you've been reading this blog then you know I also love cum. My friend who shot this scene reads this blog, too, and he had a nasty idea about having me dress like his secretary and then having me tease him with a beej before popping all over my face and glasses. My response to this idea?

Hell yes.

I got so excited I couldn't even keep my pussy in my panties

My friend lives in DC so he came to visit me in my hotel room there on a recent visit. He has just the sort of dick I love... I mean ok I love all dicks, and I love different sorts of dicks for different reasons. He has a perfect dick for oral though; big, but still fits in my mouth, plus uncircumsized and velvety in texture.

It was so much fun to shoot this scene! Seriously, I have a lot of fun with my wacky sexy lifestyle, but this really topped my experiences for that week. I'm such an exhibitionist and experiences like this one really make that abundantly clear. Don't believe me?

Then check out my damn pussy and asshole, have I proved my exhibitionist tendencies yet?
I don't want to spoil the scene too much, but let's just say I got him good and hard, and it ended like this:
That's cum on my glasses
So what are you waiting for? The best way to encourage me to continue working on this side project is to incentivize it with your cash money, so kick some my way and enjoy some jerk-off time with me :)